Thursday, February 28, 2013

Back in the swing of things!

...Donnie has been home for two weeks...
The Welcome Home sign has been taken down, the kids winter break is over, and life has returned to "normal."  It is hard to believe that two weeks ago we were having breakfast together for the first time in 9 months. It has been heartwarming to watch Donnie enjoy some of the simple pleasures we take for granted.  For example, the first thing that he ate when he walked in the door was a banana. Who knew that would have been something he missed. 
He has spent time learning the kids favorite video games. 
The picture on the plasma has been gray since after Thanksgiving, but it just wasn't a task that I was willing to tackle.  It was on the top of Donnie's list! Less than 24 hours home and he had the kids taking the TV apart to see if the problem could be fixed. Unfortunately, this wasn't one he could fix so we are now enjoying family movies on the new 60" LED with built in wi-fi.  Certainly, a pleasure he wasn't enjoying in Afghanistan. 
 ...Catching up on sleep is an important 
part of adjusting back to life at home...
...and sometimes that means falling asleep
and snoring at any moment...
...because after all, you need a lot of
energy to game with the boys...
...We have been savoring our time as a family...
...Eating...Drinking...Laughing...
Doing the things that families are supposed to do together!
 
This post really would not be complete if I didn't talk about the little things that have made me laugh as Donnie is adjusting to life back at home.  I think most everyone would agree that having a phone is important.  Not Donnie, he did not want me to activate his cell phone for him so he would have it when he got home.  Never mind that we don't have a home phone and I am not one to share my iPhone.  Finally after being locked out of the house (we were home, but no one heard him at the door) and Katie getting her eye busted open, and having to borrow a neighbors phone to call me home, guess who has a new iPhone 5? 
 
I loved when he came home from the gym and said, "It is so awesome to have mirrors at the gym!"
Apparently, it is a lot easier to lift weights when you can see yourself! Dang he looks good!
 
...Driving...
This is a separate topic in itself.  He says that he survived 9 months in Afghanistan,but my driving is going to kill him.  He was not allowed to drive for the first 48 hours back at home.  The fastest you can drive anywhere on post is 35 mph, and if passing a pedestrian it is only 10mph. So needless to say I wasn't driving fast.  But, he was VERY concerned that I was driving way too fast.  He thought 35mph felt like we were flying down the highway!  Guess this is what happens when you don't drive for 9 months and the speed limit in Afghanistan is even slower than on Fort Drum.
Thankfully, he has adjusted to driving.
 
...and my favorite...
He actually forgot how to add tip to his credit card at a restaurant. 
We went to dinner at our favorite peanut place and when the waiter brought the check. He got out his gift card to the restaurant and his credit card. I said, "Just give them the gift card and then they can put the rest of the credit card." He looked at me very confused. The waiter came and picked up the cards while Donnie gave him the same puzzled look.  He looks at me and says, "How is he going to know how much tip to add?" No, I am not joking. He was totally serious.  I explained that he would bring the receipt we would add the tip and sign it. It was like I was talking to an alien.  He did not remember this concept at all!! It wasn't until the waiter brought the ticket back that it clicked and he looked at me and said, "Shut up!" I was dying laughing. Poor guy, but don't worry he as fully adjusted to spending money and using his credit card again!
 
It's the simple things in life that we forget.
 
 
 

Friday, February 15, 2013

He's Home!!!

...I have been waiting 272 days to write those words...
 
I want to say thank you to everyone who supported us throughout this deployment...with their love, prayers, and support. To my friends who have truly been my family during this deployment. Thank you doesn't seem adequate, but I honestly could not have made it through this deployment without you!  I want to say a special thank you to Jen Ulasiewicz who took beautiful pictures of our homecoming. She captured moments and emotions that I will treasure forever. 

I see so many emotions on my face when I look at this picture taken before the ceremony.  The exhaustion of so many sleepless nights, the nervous excitement (yes that is an emotion) I felt waiting to see Donnie for the first time, and my sweet little ones ready to find their Daddy and give him the biggest hug!
 
Once the ceremony started all of the soldiers marched in and like everyone else, I started looking for my soldier.  He wasn't in the front, he must be at the back. Yes, that makes since, I kept looking as each solider filed into formation.  Still no sign of Donnie.
 At this point I began frantically scanning the rows of soldiers.  I told myself, he is the only Major in the group of soldiers I should be able to spot him.  As they played the national anthem I became teary and emotional that I couldn't find him. I knew he was there, I could feel it, but I couldn't find him.  
And then all of a sudden he was sitting down in front of us.  I looked over and he was reaching back grabbing John's leg to let him know he was there.  The overwhelming joy I felt in that moment was indescribable! I didn't want to take my eyes off of him. I sat in my chair a few moments just starting at him, but I just couldn't take it. I got up gave him quick hug and kiss around his neck and sat back down. 
I have no idea what else was said during the brief ceremony, but I felt such a weight lifted off of my shoulders. I was at peace, he was home.
Those first few hugs and kisses are so special. 
I love that you can see the lipstick left on his neck from the first kiss I gave him.  I love that he fought the urge to wipe the lipstick off his neck just for me.

My heart was happy and full watching Donnie love on Katie, John and Luke.
Pure bliss.
Our family is complete once again. 

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

....To Weather the Storm....

...in more ways than one...
I don't just mean these crazy snow storms we have in northern New York.  Those are the easy ones.  You can cuddle up inside all day, stay cozy in your pajamas, and snuggle with your babies.
I am referring to this "storm" called deployment.  I am over the moon that Donnie will be home soon, but I am an emotional wreck. I am excited and happy one minute and literally sick with panic the second.  Everyone keeps asking if we are happy or excited that Donnie will be home.  And I watch people ask the kids the same question.  Are they excited their Daddy is coming home?  The answer is YES! And if you don't say it happy enough, they look at you funny. But, I think most people forget about everything else that is involved with a homecoming.  I am scared to death!!! I want Donnie to see what an amazing job I have done holding things together, I don't want him to see my short falls (and trust me there are plenty of them). I know these are fears that my fellow Army wives understand.  Thank you, Krissy and Heather for being my battle buddies and picking me up when I needed it most. 
 
I want a picture perfect homecoming.  I know this doesn't really exist, but I might just die trying to make it happen or drive myself to the loony bin in the process.  I do my very best to push the irrational thoughts that creep into my head out.  I know Donnie doesn't care about a clean house or the perfect homecoming outfit, but I do.  I worry because I know that things won't be the same.  We've both grown and changed over the last nine months.  I know that Donnie loves me and we will find our groove again once we are back together as a family.  I try to remind myself that we will fall down along the way, but that we will get back up together...
...and like a storm...I know that there will be a calm after it...
So to quote my kids, "I'm over it (deployment)!!!!" 
I will not spend my time in the storm,
because I am ready to enjoy the sunshine. 

Wednesday, February 6, 2013

Single Digits Baby!!!

We are so close I can't stand it! It has been 263 days since Donnie left for Afghanistan and we are getting so close to the end. Seriously, the excitement is indescribable! So we don't have an exact date yet, but according to the 5 day arrival window we have been given it is less than 10 days.

Looking back over this deployment I am amazed at what the kids and I have been able to do without Donnie. And while I wish he could have been here with us, I am very proud of how strong our kids have been throughout this deployment. We're almost there.....

No more listening to a book that daddy recorded for them, he will be here to read to them at night!
...he will be here to snuggle up with them
and watch their favorite TV shows...
....and dads always know how to build the best forts!...
...and while I am not sure exactly what kind of crazy
ninja game the boys were playing, I'm sure my big boy
will jump right in and play too....
...so we will keep passing them time, doing what we do...
 ...counting down the day until we welcome our soldier home...